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#1 alyssa897

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Posted 08 April 2008 - 07:48 PM

Hello, I was wondering how everyone feels about families that have many children (let's say 5+) . Do you think it depends on how much money they make, where they live, how they raise their children, how much time they have to spend with their children, etc.

I, personally, think that if the parents are financially stable and can spend enough time with their children, then I see nothing wrong with having many little ones!

What do you think?

Thank you! :unsure:


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Posted 08 April 2008 - 08:01 PM

I certainly think money plays a BIG part in it. Living in NJ I can honestly tell you it is one of the most expensive states in the country. It's also one of the ones with the highest family incomes. But I don't see many families with more than 3 or 4 children here. It's also one of the mostly densely populated states, so maybe that has something to do with it. Personally, I'm looking forward to 2 or 3 kids. I can't really imagine college tuition for more than 3 kids. I think I'd file for bankruptcy if that happened.

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Posted 08 April 2008 - 08:27 PM

I agree. If I had a celebrities paychecks, then maybe, but not average ones.

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Posted 08 April 2008 - 08:37 PM

If they can afford to provide proper love, proper care etc.....go for it. I wish I could have that many kids but it wouldn't be sensible LOL...

Unless I win the lottery or something

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Posted 08 April 2008 - 08:39 PM

I too wish I could have that many... I just have soo many favorite name combos! lol.

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Posted 08 April 2008 - 10:12 PM

Money is the biggest issue. But a close second is the quality time parents spend with their kids. My husband and I are lucky enough that he makes enough money for me to work out of our home, so I can take on as much or as little work as I want to translating documents. I could have easily gotten a nice corporate job in NYC, but then I'd never see my husband or any of the kids we plan on having. I think it's vitally important for a parent to be informed of what's going on in their kids' lives. My dad couldn't do much since he lives in England and mom, sis & I lived here in the states. But EVERY holiday he could take time off, he was here or we were there. Fiona & I used to spend our entire summer vacations in England with Dad. And he made an effort of being around as much as possible. And if one of us did poorly in school or did something terribly naughty, mom was sure to share it with him. And yes we were grounded or punished some other way. They knew when we were halfa$$ing something and didn't turn a blind eye. That's partly why Fi and I stayed out of a lot a trouble that other kids in our neighborhood got into. Parents need to be aware and in order to do that, they have to be around.

If you've got the funds and the time to devote to all your kids, then heck - have as many or adopt as many as you want. There are certainly plenty of kids out there who need good homes.

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 04:33 AM

I agree. You definitely need to be financially stable, have time for all of your children, and have both parents, because I can't imagine what it would be like to take on 5 kids alone. If I ever have all of those things (2 out of 3 right now), then I would love having 5 kids! I love children! They're a hassle, but I love them!

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 07:42 AM

Hello, I was wondering how everyone feels about families that have many children (let's say 5+) . Do you think it depends on how much money they make, where they live, how they raise their children, how much time they have to spend with their children, etc.

I, personally, think that if the parents are financially stable and can spend enough time with their children, then I see nothing wrong with having many little ones!

What do you think?

Thank you! :unsure:


I agree with you. They should definitely be financially stable! BUT, this world is already very overpopulated, so in my opinion 5 should be the limit ... regardless of how much money you make.
What I hate to see are the people who clearly don't have the money to take care of so many children, but have them anyway, like they're puppies or something. That burns me up!

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 08:14 AM

I meant to add that if you really want a large family, have a few of your own, but also ADOPT!
There are so many children that need a loving home. :unsure:

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 09:00 AM

I agree with what's been said; if the parents have got the money, the time and the love to 'spend' on their children and raise them in a happy and healthy fashion, then in my opinion there's nothing wrong with it.

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 09:10 AM

I also agree with everything that has been said thus far; if you have the finances to care for these little angels and the love and time to spare for them, then that’s all that really matters and you should have (or adopt) as many as you want. My family is blessed because I am also able to work out of our home, and subsequently I am able to be with my girls for most, if not all of the day. Should God continue to bless us, I could see us having four or five someday :unsure: The world desperately needs more love, I think.

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Posted 23 September 2008 - 07:38 PM

I think that it really depends.

Sure,rich families should have as many kids as they can support financially,and poorest families should have less kids,but unfortunatelly more and more girls that live in 3rd World countries often end up having 6,7 kids,because they are not familiar with anticonceptional methods.And rich families have 2,sometimes 3 kids,because it is less stressful.

I think 5 is a good number,depending on the age difference between the kids.I was raised with two younger sibilings and me and my younger brother have a 9-year-old difference,so I helped taking care of him a lot.In a big family the kids "raise" each other and help around the house a lot.

I wish I could be able to sustent a big family,but unless I get very rich in the next couple of years I will only have 2 (maybe 3) kids.

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Posted 13 July 2010 - 07:53 AM

I, myself, want 8 kids. In this order:

Girl
Boy
Girl
Girl
Boy
Girl
Boy
Girl

i know my way probably won't happen. But, oh well.

I might want twins. But I can't think of any good names. i definetly don't want one of each for twins. I would name my twin boys Andrew and Alex. I don't know about twin girls.

i really like these names:
Alison Chloe
McKenna Amber
Calleigh Chanel
Kemily Jordan Marie or Kemily Justice Lauryn
Madison Heidi
Kenley Patricia
Briley Kate- i'm naming my 2nd baby girl this!
Abigail Serenity- i'm naming my 3rd baby girl this!
Kylee Maranda
Heylee Kay Michelle
Heather Elizabeth
Alexa Brynlee Grace- i would esp. use this if i had one of each twins. the boy would be Alex. I also like Alexandria.
Sara Michola Paige
Kiersten Paris
Taylor Memphis-I ADORE THIS! i am a BIG fan of Taylor Swift!
Tabitha Caydence (we would call her Tabby. I have a friend named Tabitha and we call her Tabby)
Kori Rachel Dylan- i like Kori. It's unique. I used to date this guy named Corey and we always said we would name our first baby girl Kori Rachel beause his middle name is Robert and his best friend os Dylan.
Jazmyn Lily
Jammie Kierra
Trinity Grace
Summer Kiley Nicole- esp. if she is born on June 21st. The first day of Summer!

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Posted 13 July 2010 - 09:45 AM

Haha, I don't think I can say anything that anyone else hasn't sait :P

Definitely enough money! Most families that don't have enough money to support their kids end up pretty broken or with kids who regret their parents plus their decisions. Even if you wont pay for their college's and cars, at least pay for their clothing, food, medical needs and a hobby! (well, that's my opinion anyhoo ;) ) I know I got really frusterated when I was younger and I had to work around the neighborhood to save up enough money to buy a dress I really really wanted. And I was pretty upset when my mum couldn't afford for me to join the soccer team when I was seven- like all my friends where doing :)

Definitely plenty of love and support. Many families with plentious amounts of money don't even get this! Some people seem to get it wrong either way- either they have to many kids to even pay attention to half of them or they spoil them rotten and expect that to suffice their needs. It kinda makes you sad when your parents can't remember your birthday.... it's happened to me plenty of times, and we only had four kids! :P

A good living environment. If you have enough money, and you have enough love, you also need somewhere nice for the kid(s) to live. If you have a two bedroom house, a stay at home mom and a hard-working money-maker dad isn't gunna cut thirteen children.... Plus if you have high crime rates, bad neighborhood, etc, that's not quite the greatest either...........

A stable relationship of your own. A relationship your kids can admire type of thing, you know? If you end up with nine kids from different fathers- and still aren't married yourself, what kind of influence is that on your kids? A healthy relationship with one man- preferably that your married to- is a great quality that your kids can look up to and try to be like one day. Living on government paychecks in your mothers house doesn't quite set up a pathway for your kids to follow, haha

That's my main four points, I'm thinking so far :)

Oh, and lovely123, did you know you can increase your chances on having twins by eating yams? Apparently it does something to your overies or something... but I've read a few studies on it, and apparently some midwestern/west-European (don't remember... something west?) tribes have a diet wicked high on yams and they have the highest multiples birth rate in the world :o It can't hurt to try it!

~Haddie

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Posted 13 July 2010 - 09:53 AM

I do think that it has a lot to do with how much money you have and if you have the time to love each child individually. I personally would love to have 3 kids (right now i just have 1) but i don't know that we'll ever be able to afford it. If you can do it, then go for it. That's my opinion :)

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Posted 14 July 2010 - 11:44 AM

I've always wanted a big family with lots of kids (I would like to be a foster mom). That being said everytime I see a family in public with 4+ kids I'm like "Damn that's a lot of kids!" :)

But I see no problem with a lot of kids if you can support them financially and emotionally (I don't think you have to be rich).

I would really like to be a foster mom one day when I have my own place and room for a child in my life. If I have my own kids one day then the more the merrier :) But I still feel very passionately about being a foster mom so I plan on taking care of as many kids as I can support.

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Posted 15 July 2010 - 05:37 PM

I, myself, want 8 kids. In this order:

Girl
Boy
Girl
Girl
Boy
Girl
Boy
Girl

i know my way probably won't happen. But, oh well.


That is exactly the order I want (with the two girls as twins)! :) lol

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Posted 20 July 2010 - 05:18 PM

I'm one of eight kids, and I LOVE it,
and I plan on having 5-8 kids of my own.



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Posted 21 July 2010 - 07:18 AM

i one of 4 kids i have a twin brother and sister and then a 11 year old brother i now have 6 children of my own. our 6th kid is about 2 months now and i love have a big family! but it totally depends on your money situation. and your relationship with your partner is also a big one too. but it is so much fun having a big family. all my kids help so much with baby hayden i so gratefull that my kids are so well-behaved as they are. B)

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Posted 22 July 2010 - 09:28 AM

I think if a family can support their children (I mean themselves, not through government benefits etc) and can give them love and support then they can have as many children as they like.

I don't agree with people having loads of children if they just use them to get a house or free money (as seems to be the case a lot if you believe the newspapers, here in England anyway) or if they just end up going into a care home because their parents can't look after them.




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