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#1 The Future Mrs B

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Posted 13 November 2014 - 12:14 PM

Martin's family is big on honoring family members however I'm not so big on honoring anyone in my family or his.
I'm thinking about maybe using Joseph as a middle name after his best friend and someone who's been my rock while Martin's been gone.
I also wouldn't mind using James as a nod to another friend of ours.

I haven't mentioned it to him yet as I'm not sure how he would feel about it. Any ideas on how to broach the subject? Is it weird that while we've agreed not to name our son after Martin I'm open to naming them after good friends?

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Posted 13 November 2014 - 08:12 PM

No advice really, but I think it would be awesome to name after them.

 

I love honoring names, but have a few rules for myself:

1. No naming after me or SO (unless it is like some tragic event and he dies during my pregnancy or something....)

2. No honoring people just because they are family

3. Only honoring people I/SO have a stable, healthy, close relationship with (eg not a drama-filled relationship or a "just started talking again" relationship)

 

With those rules I tend to want to honor family friends more often than family members. 



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Posted 14 November 2014 - 07:12 AM

Those rules make sense. I can imagine it would be a little awkward to explain that they were named for someone you're no longer friends with. A "friend" of mine wants me to name a daughter after her and I absolutely refuse. Not only do I not like either of her names, I don't like her suggestions and she's a lot of drama.
Martin has a female friend who he wouldn't mind naming after. My middle name is her first name and I find it boring personally.

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Posted 03 December 2014 - 02:31 PM

Maybe you could compromise by going back a few generations? You could maybe use names of great-grandparents or great-great-grandparents. That way, you'd be using names  that come from your or his family tree, but would not have any living relatives to associate the name with. For example, I'm named after my great-grandmother, who died in the 1950s. Since my parents never knew her, there were no personal connections to the name, but they were still able to honor my mother's family.

 

As far as naming your children after good friends, I don't think there's anything strange about it at all. Sometimes your friends are closer than your family, so honoring them in your children's names makes sense to me. 



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Posted 03 December 2014 - 10:47 PM

Thanks. :)
Its a good idea but everyone has used the same names. I'd have to go back two hundred years to find "new" names.

I won't be able to use James. While he's a good friend he keeps hitting on me. Joseph is still on the table. Martin just isn't sold on it because its a "normal" name and he likes more adventurous ones in the middle.




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