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[Holloway]

So I'm wondering what other people think they would do in this situation, recently my cousin mentioned that she hates her middle name. Now her middle name is her mother's middle name, her grandmother's middle name, her great grandmother's middle name and I think even farther back than that. So I'm wondering if you were in this situation where family tradition was to give your child  a middle name that you disliked what would you do? Would you just say goodbye to tradition or would you try to deal with it.

[Marvelous_Things]

This same situation kind of came up in my family when my brother was born.  He has the same middle name as my dad, my grandfather, and my great-grandmother. My dad had said that he wouldn't choose the name for himself, but gave to my brother because of the family tradition. My mom's take on the issue was that most people don't use their middle name that much anyway, so she agreed to use the family name for my brother. However, if it were me in the same situation, I'm not sure what I would do. On the one hand, I love history and would tend to want to go with tradition, but I wouldn't want to give my child a name (even a middle name) that I really hated. Perhaps you cousin can give her child two middle names: the family name that she hates and another name that she really loves. Another option (depending on what the offending name is) would be to use another form of the family name, or a name with the same meaning. In that way, your cousin would be nodding to family tradition without having to use the middle name that she doesn't like. These are just a few ideas. 

[pinkmonkey23]

I used to hate mine.. and also my first name too.. but i grew up and dealt with it.. i was named after a family member with regard to my middle and i wouldnt change it. xx

[allofthestars28]

Only if you really really hate the name then you could just not use it. If it only goes back a few generations maybe it'd be less hard to not use it but if it goes back farther maybe consider using more than one middle name or using a variation. 

[.:alexandra:.]

Honestly, if I were in that situation, I would just go with the name that I love. My view is, nobody is going to tell me how to name my child. It's MY child, therefore I am going to give it the name that I want.

[pinkmonkey23]

apparently the whole thing i wrong didn't all come out.... following this..

 

I used to hate mine.. and also my first name too.. but i grew up and dealt with it.. i was named after a family member with regard to my middle and i wouldn't change it. However if it is your child then YOU ARE the one naming not them.. could you shorten it or could you do a similar name.. btw what is the name? lol

[Holloway]

the name is Louise I was thinking maybe two middle names  would be best but for me personally I'm not a fan of double middles i just don't like the way they flow. My part of the family doesn't have this tradition and her sister doesn't have this middle name or really care about family and tradition at all so its just down to her.