So, I was telling a friend about some of the new baby name choices I had and she mentioned her ex's (her ex is my husband's ex's current husband) brother's son was named Avery. So, it got me thinking. How many 'degrees of separation' would you consider a name usable/unusable? Would it have to go as far as six degrees or maybe about 3? What do you guys think?
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, May 07 2012 04:14 PM
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 04:14 PM
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 04:22 PM
So, I was telling a friend about some of the new baby name choices I had and she mentioned her ex's (her ex is my husband's ex's current husband) brother's son was named Avery. So, it got me thinking. How many 'degrees of separation' would you consider a name usable/unusable? Would it have to go as far as six degrees or maybe about 3? What do you guys think?
Sorry if I get this wrong. Your husbands, ex-girlfriend/wife's husband? His brother has a son named Avery?
I honestly wouldn't think of that as weird if you named your daughter Avery (as long as I have the situation right).
The boy named Avery would be your step-kids step-cousin right? Something like that??? I might have this totally wrong.
But unless they see that boy a lot I wouldn't see it as an issue.
By the way, both Avery & Everly are beautiful.
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 04:34 PM
Basically. I know it's confusing. 
He would be, simply, my stepkid's stepcousin. It got me wondering what people's thoughts on it were and what they personally would find a 'comfortable' distance.
He would be, simply, my stepkid's stepcousin. It got me wondering what people's thoughts on it were and what they personally would find a 'comfortable' distance.
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 07:35 PM
I have 3rd cousins whose names I wouldn't use but 1st cousins whose names I would use. For me it depends on how much you see that person.
I see my (1st) cousin Jason once every 2-3 years, so for me it's useable. My (2nd) cousin Josh or his sister Tosha I wouldn't because I see them every few months. And frequency, I have 2 Masons in my family. One on each side, so Mason would be a no-go. We already refer to them as Mason W and Mason T. Adding Mason B isn't something I'd do.
but your stepkids' stepcousin's name, to me, is far enough seperated.
I see my (1st) cousin Jason once every 2-3 years, so for me it's useable. My (2nd) cousin Josh or his sister Tosha I wouldn't because I see them every few months. And frequency, I have 2 Masons in my family. One on each side, so Mason would be a no-go. We already refer to them as Mason W and Mason T. Adding Mason B isn't something I'd do.
but your stepkids' stepcousin's name, to me, is far enough seperated.
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Posted 07 May 2012 - 07:45 PM
I think you just have to consider how much you'd see them/how much you'd associate with them. I love the name Julia, but its my cousin's name and right now she's too much a part of my life for me to consider using it. Same with the name Emery--my sorority big's fiance is named Emre, and if I stay close to her throughout my life, using Emery might be a little weird.
But I have a second cousin, or first cousin once removed (can't really remember) named Ambrose, who I met only once, and it's a name I've considered using as a middle name, and him having that name would have no effect on if I used it or not because he's really not a part of my life
But I have a second cousin, or first cousin once removed (can't really remember) named Ambrose, who I met only once, and it's a name I've considered using as a middle name, and him having that name would have no effect on if I used it or not because he's really not a part of my life
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Posted 08 May 2012 - 09:26 AM
I agree with the above, it all matters how much you see them
I don't think it sounds bad at all though. I feel like theres enough difference there to separate them. I mean, Nate and Alana are technically not even related to them, they are only relatives through law. James has absolutely nothing to do with his ex's new hubby, nor her new hubbies family members. Especially not a brothers son. And you yourself are so distanced it doesn't really connect! <3 I think Avery sounds fine to use if you so chose!
I don't think it sounds bad at all though. I feel like theres enough difference there to separate them. I mean, Nate and Alana are technically not even related to them, they are only relatives through law. James has absolutely nothing to do with his ex's new hubby, nor her new hubbies family members. Especially not a brothers son. And you yourself are so distanced it doesn't really connect! <3 I think Avery sounds fine to use if you so chose!
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Posted 08 May 2012 - 09:36 AM
I guess it would depend on if Nate & Alana spend a lot of time with this "cousin."
Would it be weird for them to have a "cousin" Avery and a baby sister Avery?
Is the "cousin" about the same age with them? Even though they are technically step-cousins and not biologically family, if they are being raised as family the connection is still there.
I never lived near my mom or dad's family growing up aside from my mom's parents. So I never became very close with my cousins. However, my mom's boyfriends family lived nearby and we spent a lot of holidays with his family. Even though his nieces and nephews aren't my blood relatives, I consider them my cousins and I see them and hear from them more so than I do my blood relatives even now that my mom and their uncle are split up. Family is a very relative term.
Would it be weird for them to have a "cousin" Avery and a baby sister Avery?
Is the "cousin" about the same age with them? Even though they are technically step-cousins and not biologically family, if they are being raised as family the connection is still there.
I never lived near my mom or dad's family growing up aside from my mom's parents. So I never became very close with my cousins. However, my mom's boyfriends family lived nearby and we spent a lot of holidays with his family. Even though his nieces and nephews aren't my blood relatives, I consider them my cousins and I see them and hear from them more so than I do my blood relatives even now that my mom and their uncle are split up. Family is a very relative term.
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Posted 08 May 2012 - 02:06 PM
Family aside, I was wondering where would some people end an association. I don't see my second cousins a lot. I haven't see them for YEARS but I couldn't use their names (Scarlett, Alexandria, Hailey, etc...)
LOL. Like...
I have an ex co-worker who named her daughter Ava. Though, I don't keep in touch with her, I can't see myself using it. Or, this girl went to school with James, his ex, and a few friends (she hangs out with James' ex and tried to date James when he was divorcing), named er daughter Cherish. I heard it, thought it was cute but I wouldn't use it. Or my friend's brother's daughter is named Lily. I don't associate with him but I can't see using it now.
I guess it is all subjective. LOL
LOL. Like...
I have an ex co-worker who named her daughter Ava. Though, I don't keep in touch with her, I can't see myself using it. Or, this girl went to school with James, his ex, and a few friends (she hangs out with James' ex and tried to date James when he was divorcing), named er daughter Cherish. I heard it, thought it was cute but I wouldn't use it. Or my friend's brother's daughter is named Lily. I don't associate with him but I can't see using it now.
I guess it is all subjective. LOL
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