Baby Name Poll Results

baby naming books recommend that if you are concerned about disapproval from any friends or relative that you don’t tell them the name until after the birth certificate is finished.

(if you need help with picking the name you can ask us!)

you can use any name.

you break the news after the baby’s name is official.

Why don’t they like the name? If they have a legitimate reason you might want to reconsider.

Definitely tell them after baby is born. I would personally feel weird naming my baby the same as a nephew. Do you have a name picked out?

you break the news like this:

We had a boy /girl and we named him/her ____! He/she is ___lbs __oz and is/is not healthy..........

Their response should be: Congratulations!

Well my husband really likes the name Ian. My husband is 27, his half sister is 45+ and her Ian is 5. We see her 2-3 times a year and he still wants to use the name however, I am unsure if it is rude to use the name or not.

From experience, it is frustrating enough trying to find a name that you and your spouse agree on. More opinions from family (although well intended) only makes things worse. Tell them after you picked a name.

I think that naming your child Ian would be kind of weird, since it is your nephew’s name. His parents would have two grand children with the same name, that would be confusing. If it was a distant relative like cousin or great uncle, etc that may be different.

I would usually just say screw them, but I think they are too closely related (even though there is such a huge age difference and they are half siblings). What about Ethan? Do you like this name? It is very similar and could solve your problem

I say go for it.

Ian or Iain

It is not rude at all.

Lots of families have lots of Johns and Marys.

Ian is just another form of John.

I wouldn’t say it’s not allowed, but just know that there will be tension in this situation. But if you really love the name, ultimately, it is your child!

You can do it, but I agree it would be awkward for one set of grandparents to have two grandson’s named Ian.

What about Adrian or Julian, and maybe using Ian as a nickname?

I think it is perfectly fine to use Ian, especially since it is a common name. However, it seems like people either feel it is totally ok or totally not ok. Personally, I can’t understand anyone thinking they have specific rights to a name. However, just to be safe, your husband should talk to his sister and make sure she doesn’t mind. She really shouldn’t--if she does, I’m not saying don’t use the name, but you and your husband will have to go from there. I wouldn’t base the decison on the grandparents having 2 Ians though, this is a major decison that only belongs to you and your spouse and other people’s "comfort" should only mildly be taken into consideration IMO. GL!!

How about using Ian for a middle name? This is a way of complimenting the nephew instead of offending. Maybe look to use a double name using "Ian" to make it different!

well i personally do not use family members names unless its in honor of them. i also dont let family members other then my Husband decided on the name an dont tell any one till the babyshower or till the baby is born.

i come from a family in which the first born is usually given the same name by tradition so when we get together we all are introduced to people and basically half of the people there have the same name. so i can say don’t worry about it. no one gets confused. i personally wouldn’t have given it a thought.