Baby Name Poll Results

This is a decision only you can make. GL.

Honestly, I would give her up for adoption. There are great parents out there who are financially and emotionally ready for a child who can’t have one. You would be giving them a great blessing to give them the child they so desperately want.

Having a baby is so much more than the financial part (although that is a big part of it).

If you truly love your baby, you’ll want her in the best situation possible and can you honestly say you are the best situation for her? If you can’t provide for her on your own, my answer to that would be no.

It’ll be hard, but I think adoption could be a happy ending for your baby.

You should be discussing this with your parents, not random strangers on the internet.

I have and they don’t want me to give her up. But I’m just not sure.

There is no way you could ever write enough for any of us to give you good advice. You say you are a teen, but theres a big difference between 15 and 19, and personality types.

Is having your parents adopt or take custody of her an option? They obviously love thier granddaughter if they are offering to support you two financially and dont want you to give her up.

Stay in school, get a degree.

I like the idea of my parents taking custody of her so that I could still see her. And I’m sorry that I didn’t give my age, I see a lot of teen mom polls where they post their age and people say it’s stupid and I didn’t want people to be talking about that on my poll. I am 16. I will talk to my parents about them taking custody of Charlie. Thank you.

I think if you are getting the financial support and you feel you are both ready to take on a baby and realise the consequences then you should keep her. You seem mature enough to realise that this baby is the main priorety and if you have your parents support too then i think you should do what you feel best. It must be very hard to think of giving up your child.

Like others have said, only you can make this decision, but I just wanted to mention the possibility of an open adoption. There are many degrees of "openness" and perhaps you can find a family that is willing to let your parents still be her grandparents and let you have a certain amount to do with her life, but ultimately and legally, they would be her parents. Look into it. I have friends who have adopted children and the biological parents and grandparents send them gifts and cards and my friends send them pictures and updates and occasional phone calls and stuff like that, but they don’t have in-person contact. But you may be able to find somebody who is okay with occasional contact. You’d have to lay out the boundaries very specifically and respect them, but it is possible.

(and I also agree that whatever path you choose, you should get a degree, even if it takes longer than average.)

Keep her

I have also thought of an open adoption. Thank you for the suggestion.

PLEASE DON’T GIVE HER UP. YOU ARE THIS CHILDS MOTHER. IF YOU GIVE HER UP IMAGINE THE PAIN YOU WILL FEEL FOR A LIFETIME.

To the last poster who wrote in all caps: Shut up. Seriously. Shut up.

It’s your life. You should NOT, I repeat, NOT be getting advice from strangers on the internet. So many things play into this decision. You need to contact adoption agency. These things take time. You need to talk to a social worker who deals with these situations and discuss your situation. Everyone’s situation is unique. NO ONE should be telling you what to do with YOUR child. You need to think about what is best for you and your baby and follow your heart.

Call me stupid but I really dont see what the problem is... You say you have already named her...Your parents are willing to help you and your boyfriend is supportive and you will love this baby to death well to me age doesnt really matter..Yea its alittle harder but when it all come downs to it...what you can give to a child is all that matters and sounds to me your baby will have the love from yourself your boyfriend and your family and all the financial support as well...some people on here might disagree with me...but I have a baby as a teen im now 35 and my daughter is a beautiful young women who im proud of and im glad I was her to see her throu life we grew together and that bond will never been broken....but its all up to you good luck

But on the flip side of what i just said...If you feel you would resent the baby for everything you had to give up then maybe giving her up is a good choice coz a child shouldnt have to live with resentment but noone know the future and noone on here knows you personaly or you home situation so you have to make that choice on what is best for the both of you.

I think you should keep her, if you and your boyfriend have already named her than you really do want her, but you feel that she desevers better. I don’t think you want to give her up and possibly regret it in the end, What she really need is her parents no matter if it’s you or someone else. But i was young not a teen but just 20 when I had my daughter and I had no boyfriend (we had broke up before I got pregnant) and i knew I couldn’t afford her but I knew that I loved her the momment that I heard her heart beat and I knew that I was going to do everything in my power to give her the best life possible and I have she is a wonderful 3 year old. I have made due my parents help out time to time and her father came back a few months after leaving. So all I can saw is follow your heart and well I think you should keep it.