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Need vs. Some vs. Advice

So my husband and I picked out our little boys name (I am getting induced tomorrow!) and I am really freaking out about telling my biological dad. The reason: Our baby will have my step-dads name as his mn. We aren’t worried that my father-in-law will be upset, but I think that my bio-dad will be. Have any of you had a similar situation? How did you handle it? I am worried because I can be a push-over type people pleaser and usually kind of gloss things over so I don’t hurt peoples feelings and I can’t really do that once my bio-dad wants to know the baby’s name. Any advice on how to tell him, or what to say. It’s just one of those things that has me up at night (like my massive laundry pile!). ~Thank you~

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Poll created: May 10, 2008

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If you are not very close with your biological dad, then I wouldn’t worry about it. If your bio dad and step dad shared the responsibility of raising you, then politely tell him that after many discussions, you and your hubby have decided on so-and-so for the middle name. If you are close to your bio- dad, make sure you tell him how much you love him. Honesty is the best policy. Good luck and congrats on the baby!

posted by guest :: 16 years ago | report

I would just tell him the babies name.
You dont have to specify that he is named after your step-dad even if the name is the same. I gave one of my sons he same name as a relative.. however we just picked the name because we liked it it wasnt actually "after" the relative.
And it is his grand child I think no matter the name he will love it.

posted by Jennifer :: 16 years ago | report

Whats the baby’s name ??

posted by Olivia :: 16 years ago | report

Perhaps someone else can tell him -- you’re busy having the placenta out or consulting with the lactation nurse or something, ya know? That can soooo be the baby’s father’s first job -- announcing the name and stats. Your bio-dad will then have time to digest this information and possibly be more composed about it rather than just blurting out something that you’ll have to deal with.

Here’s some wording: "She just had the baby -- he looks great. His name is Victor Maxwell, and he’s huge -- 9 pounds. He looks really healthy and he’s yelling his head off and we can’t wait for you to see him!" See? Fling the name in there but then rush on immediately to other details, finishing with something that makes the bio-dad feel valued and important.

Best of luck to you!