Baby Name Poll Results

First off, I am not pregnant and I don’t have children and will most likely not try to get pregnant soon. Like most women, I have names I like, but for several years the name Abram has been special to me. It has seemed more than just a favorite name and in the back of my mind I have said if I ever have a son I will name him Abram. I do not know anyone with this name, but I know there are many many males with this name. I also know that many people don’t like it, but I love it. So, a distant cousin of mine finds out next week if she is having a boy or girl. Even though the family is on good terms, we just do not speak much. If she has a boy she said she is going to name him Abrahm (this spelling). He is due in December. If she has a girl then Abram obviously won’t be used. The question is, have any of you had an issue like this or knew of one like it where a persons favorite name was used? I feel very silly for feeling this way because I would have to have a son myself and I may only have a girl or all my children be girls. I also know that people have the same names, but I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. They will most likely live here, but it is possible I may be moving away for work. Whether that will be a few minutes or hours, I don’t know. Assuming she has a boy and names him Abrahm, how should I feel? To be honest, I cried when I found out this information. As in tears came from my eyes while thinking about it. I didn’t have a crying fit lol. Am I being completely unreasonable? Any advice? Thanks!

Use it anyway, she is the one spelling it wrong. Even if you do ’copy’ her kids name, years down the road, she’ll look like the idiot, throwing the random ’h’ in the name. DO NOT TELL HER THAT!! keep you mouth closed about it to YOUR advantage. Also, this is why you never discuss baby names with anyone. They will either love it, and steal it from you, or hate it, and make you cry that way. Don’t ever tell the babys name till after the kid is born. EVER. GL!

Also, you should feel just fine about it. Abram isn’t a popular name, and I think it would be fin. Again, GL.

Thanks you two! The thing is I didn’t share it with anyone because I don’t want to give anyone an idea! Lol

Well, then, what you do is this: If and when you get pregnant with a boy, tell her that you had loved, and wanted to use that name before she ever did. Tell her, you are going to use Abram yourself, and that you aren’t stealing it. You simply liked the name before she used it, and you aren’t going to feel obligated to find a new one, just cause she used your fave first, even if she didn’t know it. If she gets weird about it, stand your ground.