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My husband and I just recently got married and we wanted to know how long everyone else waited to have a baby after they were married. We were thinking about starting to try soon since I have been told it could take a loooonnggg time for me to get pregnant. It took my mother 20 years to have me and we definitely don’t want it to take that long. We are financially stable, own our own house, and have no debt so we are covered in that area. We’ve heard though that when you have a baby your relationship with each other goes downhill. We don’t want that to happen so that scares us a bit too! Do you guys think it would be okay to just have one and wait six or seven years to have another? Suggestions or advice? Thank you everyone who responds! We know this isn’t for these type of questions but there are a lot of mothers on here and we thought you could offer advice. Again, thanks :)

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Have baby now? 100% (2 votes)
Wait? 0% (0 votes)
Comments or Suggestions? 0% (0 votes)

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I think it depends on how strong the marriage is. My parents found out they were pregnant with me 4 months after they got married. Then had my sister about 2 years later. They’ve been together for 27 years. My sister got pregnant with her first child less than a year after she got married and is now pregnant with their second.
posted by guest: guest :: 2013-08-25 18:28:56 | report
It’s your preference. With a baby, you won’t be able to travel as frequently or hang out with friends at night (or anytime) without paying for a babysitter. If you both work, are you willing to pay for a daycare and miss some of the cute baby things? It’s all up to you, good luck!
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 18:30:48 | report
Some additional info: my husband works and I am in part time schooling(only morning). My mother will be our sitter and we feel that as long as we only have one we can still travel and do fun things. That’s not what we are too worried about. I think it’s starts getting hard to travel and such when you have 2 or three children. That’s why we wanted to have just one and wait 5-7 years before having another. -poll maker
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 18:33:40 | report
I’m married to my partner for 3 years now been together for 5 nearly 6 years. We decided to start trying straight away (we are a [removed] couple, and had the same thought as you that it may take a while). We got pregnant first try, after 4 months of marriage and now have a 2 year old son named Issac and are expecting our second child now. I think it wholly depends on your relationship as a couple, we expected it to take longer than it did. But once it happened quickly we just accepted it as fate, it changed our relationship as kids do. But our relationshi[removed]trong, if not stronger. We still reserve time for ourselves as a couple, we have a date night every few weeks when we can. Just set aside time for you guys as a couple if you do have a baby and your relationship will stay strong. Just do whatever you feel is right. Good luck and God Bless.
posted by guest: Guest :: 2013-08-25 18:39:45 | report
My husband and I were married two years before our daughter was born. It took us about a year to get pregnant. I think the right time to get pregnant is a really personal decision but the funny thing is that you’ll probably feel like the time is right whether you get pregnant now, a year from now, or longer. I wouldn’t worry that it will take 20 years for you to get pregnant..with fertility treatments today it will probably happen sooner than that if you have problems.
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 18:56:14 | report
my parents got pregnant with me after 2 months of marriage ,and they got married after only 3 months of dating , I know right talk about rushing things in only 5 months there entire life changed , so id say start right away and if you wait more then 5 years between each kid they wont bond well , Good luck
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 18:56:49 | report
My partner and I waited 2 years after we got married and had been together 5 years before that.

I think it depends on how soon you want babies. If you’re both ready, go ahead. We chose to wait and enjoy married life for a little bit before we brought kids into this world.
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 19:07:00 | report
If you are under 30 - wait! If you over 30, I think it’s fine to start trying now. It is nice to wait while you are young to enjoy time together - going out / vacations etc. Life will never be the same again - it will be wonderful but enjoy your time together first.
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 19:07:42 | report
I was told that I never could get pregnant less then 2 years latter I got pregnant it was total shock bc it was all natural with no treatments. (the doc said if I did get pregnant with fertility treatment) So the doc could be wrong about you too.
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 19:29:49 | report
My husband and I got pregnant just a little after our 1 year anniversary. We were together three years before we got married. I am due at the beginning of October. I think it all has to do with what you feel is the right time. If you think you are ready to start trying than I say go for it. If you and your husband want to travel a lot than I would suggest waiting a year or so but as long as you feel you are ready thats all that really matters.
posted by guest :: 2013-08-25 19:56:34 | report

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