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Hi, I’m Erin and my husband is Joel. On Tuesday I had my little girl at 28 weeks and she didn’t make it. We wanted to name her Lily Emma but should her name have some significance? Like faith, hope or joy? Also, due to complications with her birth I won’t be able to get pregnant naturally again. My husband and I want children, and our options are adoption and IVF, but my stepmother says we shouldn’t adopt because we can afford IVF and that’s mean to people who can’t afford IVF, and we shouldn’t do IVF because there are children out there who need a home and it’s being selfish to have our own! Please help us and god bless.
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That’s ridiculous - there are plenty of children to go round, of course you can adopt, it’s a wonderful thing. It is your choice, not your step mothers. There is no need for a name like Joy or Hope, all names have significance of some sort.
First of all, I think you need to slow down. I would not be thinking of having another baby right now, but rather grieve for the one you have lost, and allow your mind, body, and spirit time to heal. Just name her Lily Emma. That is significant.
So sorry for your loss....
Lily Emma is gourgous but Lily Emma Faith would be cute!
I have adopted 5 children and in the middle of adopting my 6 child. They are a blessing. Yes, they arn’t biologically mine but god blessed us with them. Adoption is amazing but if you want your own biological children do IVF. You could always adopt a child and try IVF if you can afford it. Good luck!
Keep the name you knew her as prior to her birth. Slow down ... you don’t have to worry about the future quite yet or how to please other people. Give it some thought and do what is best in your heart.
100% with the above poster. Give yourself time to recover from the loss.
first of all I am sorry for your loss, I do believe that the best way you can honor your daughter is by not changing her name Lily Emma means more to you and your family than Hope, joy, etc could ever mean. as for the IVF vs Adoption My husband and I are in the same place as you, we want desperately to become parents but 3 years ago we found out that my husband has a brain tumor and due to a syndrome called XXY Male syndrome he will never be able to father a child. so now our options are Adopotion or donor sperm (which depending on my fertility might include an IVF) because of the Medical bills we really can not afford either right now. we are hoping that we can in the next 1-2 years after the med bills are paid off, so with all that said IVF vs Adoption is such a personal choice that involves a lot of research and discussion on your part. their is a lot to think about and no one on this board or in your life should talk you in or out of something that is not right for you. I was all on board with the idea of Adoption (my mother was adopted) but after doing the research and really giving it a lot of thought we have decided that we are going to try a sperm donor first but we haven’t ruled adoption out completely (that is our back up plan) so do the research talk with your hubby about what is the best choice for the two of you, and don’t listen to anyone else. good luck
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