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What’s the vs. problem with vs. unisex names on girls?
I’m just wondering, I’ve seen two people using unisex names for girls getting horrible comments from others about their name choices and I just want to know what’s the big deal?
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I don’t get it. But this is one thing that some people have VERY strong opinions over! My son is named Logan. I know girls are named this too and I don’t loose an ounce of sleep over it. I could care less. To each their own! Neighbors of ours growing up were both named Gerry (male and female). They’ve been married for many many years and have a huge family. So I’m sure if my Logan marries a female Logan...he’ll be just fine ;)
Live and let live....even in the baby name world!
They are not unisex names they are boys names and a lot people don’t like that trend.
I don’t know! I love unisex names and trendy names. I’d love to hear someone who has the opposit opinion.
The main issue for me is that it sometimes ruins the names for the boys. For instance, Ashley was originally a boy’s name, and I love it as such. But it became sooo popular for girls, that boys can’t really use it anymore. Tons of really nice masculine names have been lost to the boys this way. It’s kind of shame because there are not as many great boys’ names anyway and the pool keeps shrinking.
For me the main problem is when people then say they can’t be used on boys. Like Ashley or other names that were originally boy names, got used on girls and suddenly it would be awful to use on a boy. It is sexist.
People don’t like boys names on girls, and that is what those where because then they get ruined for the boys and are difficult for the girls to live with.
In many countries they are actually banned, by law you must use a correctly spelled and gender appropriate name. For good reason judging by American fads of late.
I hear people all the time on boys names used on boys saying things like "I have heard of girls with that name, he will be bullied or confused for a girl".
I think there is an abundance of beautiful girls names in the world, but amazing boys names are harder to find. So, it bothers me a bit when boy names go to the girls. The only reason I see it being a problem is because if your son in the only male Ashley in a class of 4 other female Ashleys, there’s a good chance he’ll be made fun of for having a "girl name". I personally like masculine names on a girl, but now that I’m having a boy and trying to come up with names, I dislike that so many of my choices get squashed because they are suddenly in the top 10 girls names.
Who says what names can and can’t be used on girls and boys? I men named Stacey and Mackenzie! I’ve met little boys named Avery and Reese. I know woman named Ryan and Brette and little girls named Cameron and Joey. Who cares who says whats right and whats wrong?!? If you like a name and YOU think its perfect for your baby then name your kid that. It’s A LOT better than naming your kid some made up name or a whacky spelling!
What I find annoying is that when people use unisex names on boys, they get shot down and when people use unisex names on girls, they get shot down. The word unisex literally means that the name can be used for both genders so I don’t see what the problem is. Now, I feel when the name gets into the top 20-25 for girls, it’s pretty much gone. But, for some reason it’s not the same for boys and that’s why you see girls being named Ryan and Aiden. I personally love unisex names on girls (Avery, Skylar, Salem, and Saffron are in my top 10)! But I do love a few unisex names for boys and I hate when they get used on girls (Jaylon, Carter, Colin). It really depends on the person but I think you’re right. It’s the parent’s decision, not their friends, not the government’s (why the hell would they make a law like that?? Naming your kids should be a birth right!), not anyone else but the parents. And I think some people need to start respecting that.
People don’t like them because it leads to confusion - ’are you a girl/boy?’ Maybe you don’t care but Logan might when he gets older - what boy wants to be teased because he has the same name as a girl in his class. Then when it comes to Resume’s & interviews - ’oh, I thought you were going to be a boy/girl’.
I think the problem is that people aren’t using unisex names they are using boy names. Or that as names because unisex- Quinn, Addison, etc. people freak out when people want to use them for boys which is what kind of names they really were!
My daughter has a unisex name and it seems the only place people care is here. You know what we get when people ask her name? Compliments! You know why? Because people aren’t generally rude like on here. Maybe they truly like the name, maybe they don’t. But Cameron has never been teased in school and I’ve never gotten eye rolls or rude comments when I’ve told someone her name. This is the name we’ve chosen and we think is perfect for our daughter. And so far, she loves her name!
But it’s not as bad for a girl as it is for a boy - boys don’t want to be seen as girly!
Above poster: This is a site where people ask for opinions, if you think people being honest is rude then find another site.
The problem is that unisex names have to develop over time as such. as mentioned, certain names used to be "all boy", then they trickled over to the girl side before becoming "all girl." For me, it’s a matter of what has become common. I can’t stand the idea of girl Spencers and Carters but I’ve gotten over girl Camerons -it’s crossed the line into unisex for me; and the idea of a boy McKenzie seems odd; but everybody’s experiences with a name are different and so their definition of what is and isn’t unisex will be different, as well as change over time. Personally I’m fine with names that have a generally accepted male spelling vs female spelling like Aaron/Erin, Adrian/Adrienne. I’m also totally fine with boy nicknames for girl full names-like Charlie for Charlotte or Billy for Belinda. That’s cute. That’s spunky. But actually naming your little girl Charlie is asking for trouble. Could be minor, could be major, and in fifty years maybe nobody will care or maybe she’ll stand out as unique, but she might also have a hard time her whole life. And for some people that just isn’t something they want to "risk" on their kids. And other people think that means neither should anybody else. And on the internet it’s a lot easier to share your opinion in a more blunt way. But children are also blunt. So in real life, most adults will probably accept it, but kids might not be so kind, and that can be a big deal to your child. My advise is to always have an "out" for your child-a more "normal" middle name they can go by if they can’t embrace their unique first name.
^^^I think this previous poster has perfectly answered the question! Couldn’t have said it better myself.
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