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River Jorden I don’t love my sons name vs. What shiould I do? Please read below
I made the poll yesterday regarding my 5 month old son River Jorden. I got a lot of response...thanks to those who left comments. My husband was the one who chose River...I wanted to name him Jorden and he really doesn’t like that name. He wanted to spell it Jorden because he said it looks less girly (I wanted Jordan Wyatt). I gave in due to all of the hormones and just being so tired from the pregnancy and we named him River. I didn’t realize how bitter I am about it until the last couple months. Our other son is 5 years old and his name is Joshua Ryan and I absolutely love his name. Like I said in my other poll I call my 5 month old son Jordy and everytime I say it my husband corrects me and says his name is River. Well he is just not a River to me. I don’t know what to do about this. I think it sounds silly to say these are my sons Joshua and River. They don’t go together. Joshua and Jordan would be much better in my opinion. I guess I will call him R.J. his whole life if I’m not able to change it. My husband is very controlling because he works and I stay home with the boys. He feels like he has more say than I do since he makes the money. It’s just so hard looking at my baby and seeing Jordan Wyatt but having to say River Jorden. My husband says its not a big deal and to find something else to worry about. Is he right? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? What do you think?
The Top Baby Name is...
River Jorden I don’t love m
What shiould I do? Please read below
Poll created: Oct 10, 2008
Total Votes: 1
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posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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That’s tough. I hate when men think they have all the say just because they make the money. Let them stay home all day. Your role in the family is just as important as his. My husband makes more money but I handle all the finances because I am better at it and he knows it. I am going to stay home with my second child but will still be doing the finances! Maybe if he understood how much day care and gas is to work he will agree someone needs to stay home!
Anyway, I am sorry for your delima, but if he won’t agree to change it then what choice do you have? I like both names better than RJ. The only thing I can suggest is that you convice him to call him Jorden because you feel strongly about it. My husband goes by his middle name, a lot of people do. Actually, his parents had arguments over his name too. His mom won and got the first name (Matthew) and his dad picked the middle (Douglas). Well, in 3rd grade there was another Matthew in his class and ever since then he has gone by Doug! Maybe try to make peace with the name and start enjoying that baby of yours, and when he gets in school try to convince him to go by his middle name and then dad can’t control it.
Anyway, I am sorry for your delima, but if he won’t agree to change it then what choice do you have? I like both names better than RJ. The only thing I can suggest is that you convice him to call him Jorden because you feel strongly about it. My husband goes by his middle name, a lot of people do. Actually, his parents had arguments over his name too. His mom won and got the first name (Matthew) and his dad picked the middle (Douglas). Well, in 3rd grade there was another Matthew in his class and ever since then he has gone by Doug! Maybe try to make peace with the name and start enjoying that baby of yours, and when he gets in school try to convince him to go by his middle name and then dad can’t control it.
Look, believe it or not, I went through the very same thing. Except my kids names are so close. I cried about this too and wished I could have went back. I did it because my husband loved the name so much and then I thought I could go by his middle name, but when we got home my husband said no we are going by his first name. I went through what I thought was post partum depression because of it. However it has been 2 years now and I am glad that his name is what it is. I am glad that my son want one of many in the class. You should look at it like you picked your first sons name and your husband has picked the second. Besides Joshua and Jorden as first names are too close in my opinion. I just sucked it up and when I had another baby, I picked her name out.
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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Explain to your husband that you are very unhappy with calling him River and you are going to start calling him Joshua. River is still his first name but that is not what you are calling him. Just start calling him that and he will get over it.
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:: 15 years ago |
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Lots of people go by their middle names. No big deal. Call him Jorden and tell your hubby to get over it. You’re home with them...you call their names out the most, he’ll get over it. I also like RJ. Joshua & RJ still sound good together.
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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I’m so sorry for your dilemna. It obviously bothers you very much. I think if I were in your shoes I would first try to convince my husband that we should change his name. I would point out the "River Jorden" sounds like "the river Jordan" in Palestine. I would take the two names you both dislike strongly off the table as possible fns. Then I would try to work towards a compromise: Gordon Wyatt? Wyatt Jorden?
If that didn’t work (which it may not given the power dynamics you mention), I would then stick to calling him Jordy. If you’re at home with him that is what he will hear most often and he’ll probably grow to prefer that nn and when he’s in school, ask his teachers & friends to call him that too.
If that didn’t work (which it may not given the power dynamics you mention), I would then stick to calling him Jordy. If you’re at home with him that is what he will hear most often and he’ll probably grow to prefer that nn and when he’s in school, ask his teachers & friends to call him that too.
posted by
Pam
:: 15 years ago |
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Joshua is my first sons name. I want to call him Jorden which is his middle name. Everytime I call him Jorden or Jordy he gets mad at me. He says I’m going to confuse him. Thanks for all of the comments and I know I need to stand up to him. He is a jerk but he has a good heart. Thank you.
posted by
Lacey
:: 15 years ago |
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I really don’t think your son will be confused by you calling him by his mn. I have several nieces and nephews who have American fns and African mns. The American family members (usually mom & her relatives) use the fn and the African family members (usually dad & his relatives) use the mn. The kids seem to be fine with it.
posted by
Pam
:: 15 years ago |
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Call him Jordan but don’t change the name. You can both call him something different. My niece is Jordyce Danielle. She gets called Danielle, Jordyce, Jordy, and Bugsy. She is 2 and is not confused about her name at all.
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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Just wanted to say that I think River Jorden is a really cute name and your son will probably be grateful to have something a little more unique since Jordan is very popular right now. Hopefully it will grow on you and won’t cause problems between you and your hubby. Wish you the best in the days ahead!
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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It’s not a good sign that your husband is controlling and I hope he’s not emotionally/physically/sexually abusive. Do you know where to get help if you need to?
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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Call him Jordan. Many people go by their mn and your husband can’t force you to call him something else. (If he does force you then you have bigger problems there than your son’s name). Remember, you did agree to naming him that. If you compromised then why is it so hard now. And not to side with your husband, b/c I don’t put up with controlling, but I do prefer River to Jordan (especially with the e!) as well as Wyatt, Joshua and Ryan. River is actually the only one of any of those names I’d consider for my own. Just my opinion, doesn’t mean anything for you or your tastes, other than maybe it’s not so bad.
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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I call my daughter by her mn sometimes. She responds to it, as well as to her fn, fn & mn put together (she had her teacher calling her that), cupcake, etc. She doesn’t seem to mind calling her whatever.
posted by
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:: 15 years ago |
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YOU call your child whatever you want he is not the boss of this all just because he makes money your job is just as hard (even though rewarding) put your foot down
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me
:: 15 years ago |
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