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Huge vs. Problem
So very sadly, my first daughter, Cecilia, passed away of childhood cancer when she was only four years old, 6 years ago. On a happier note, I am expecting another daughter. However, my second husband wants to name our new girl... Cecily! It was his beloved grandmother’s name, and a name that he has loved long before he met me. However, this is just too close for me. To me, naming our daughter Cecily would feel like replacing Cecilia, which I would never want to do, and I would feel the grief I felt when Cecilia passed away every time I heard the name Cecily. My second husband is stuck on this name, but I don’t think I could bear using it. We cannot use it as a middle name, because we already have a middle name picked out. What should I do?!?!?
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Poll created: Jun 02, 2015
Total Votes: 2
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Pick a completely different name. What are some other family names you might want to use?
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:: 8 years ago |
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I am very sorry for your loss I would just tell him how you feel i am sure he would understand,or you could look at it as a tribute to your first daughter, she would have probably thought it is cool that mommy is having a baby girl and she is kinda named after me.but, if you are having a hard time with it i am sure your husband would understand.best wishes.
posted by
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:: 8 years ago |
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Maybe Sylvia? I am so sorry about your daughter. I’m sure she was a wonderful person, and I am deeply saddened to hear this.
posted by
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:: 8 years ago |
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Explain to your husband the memories the name beings up. I would choose a different name it is too similar of a name. Suggest other names that start with a "C" or end with "ly" as a compromise. Example: Claire or Emily.
posted by
Adaline
:: 8 years ago |
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I think he’s just going to have to understand that Cecily is much too similar to Cecilia to be usable.
Maybe there is another way you could still honor his Grandmother.Perhaps her middle name or maiden name? Even if the names themselves don’t work perhaps you could come up with something creative out of them.
Maybe there is another way you could still honor his Grandmother.Perhaps her middle name or maiden name? Even if the names themselves don’t work perhaps you could come up with something creative out of them.
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:: 8 years ago |
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Absolutely don’t use it if you don’t feel comfortable and it doesn’t feel right. Explain your feelings to your husband and choose a variation that doesn’t feel like your replacing Cecilia. How about another C name like Cordelia, Cora, Cinda, Celine, Coralie, Carolina.. Or honor that family member by using their middle or even last name, or honor a different family member. Good luck!!
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:: 8 years ago |
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Im so sorry forvyour loss...I mean it’s really up to you if you use it as her middle you can say your honoring her memory? as it is similar but not the same. But if its too personal then just tell him how you feel. couples are teams and you never do things songle sided especially when it comes to touchey subjects.
posted by
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:: 8 years ago |
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I think he needs to care enough about you to understand that you cannot use that name. You have a child with that name already, whether the child is here or in heaven.
posted by
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:: 8 years ago |
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Possibly using it as her middle name. It would be honoring both her older sister and great grandmother. I am truly sorry for your loss of Cecilia.
posted by
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:: 8 years ago |
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I’m so very sorry for your lost - no child or parent should ever have to go through that... I agree with other posters tell your husband how using that name makes you feel. Like other posters suggested perhaps you could use it as a middle name to honor her older sister and great grandmother? And perhaps you can use the current middle name you have picked out as her first name?
posted by
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:: 8 years ago |
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I’m at a loss as to why he is unable to understand why using a name that’s so similar to Cecilia would be hurtful to you? I get that he likes it, but if you both don’t agree on it, it shouldn’t even be considered.
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:: 8 years ago |
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I am so sorry for your loss- my 14 year old nephew is fighting leukaemia right now, no one should ever have to go through that. I say don’t use the name. Your husband should understand. I completely agree, you’d feel like you are replacing Cecilia and you would grief whenever you call for Cecily. I say choose a completely new name, best of luck!
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Lisa
:: 8 years ago |
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