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How long have you been married? I'm turning 30 soon, my fiancé and I have been together 5 years and I'm still unsure if I want a baby. Everyone is different, but I feel like there is still more of your life to enjoy before a baby. Growing up I thought I would have a baby around 28 and that has come and gone...

We've been married two years, but we've been together for five years. I do want to be a mommy, but I'm just so unsure on when. It's causing problems between us... I know this isn't a place to be discussing this topic, but I don't want anyone else knowing our business. I have spoken to some of our family members and they're not being very helpful. They're not understanding I don't know if I'm ready... sounds silly I know.

I mean, I've always thought I'd have baby by now. All my friends are on their second or third baby. I've not even had one yet. Same with my cousins. My husband thinks that maybe that I'm not ready now, what if I'm never ready. It's just really starting to bother me lately...

I'm 28 and having my first and only. Can you identify why you are feeling not ready? You are still really young. For me, I wanted to make sure I had my ducks in a row, so to speak, before I felt ready, and I am still anxious but excited for my daughter to arrive. I wanted to be sure we could provide for our child and that I had done what I myself had wanted to experience. Maybe if you could identify why are feeling the way you are, it would help you to come to a compromise with your husband or a timeline for your future. Good luck!

I'm 29 I've been married for a year and a half. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for a year but no luck still. 24 years old is still young honestly. You have plenty of time still. I know women in their late 30's who are having their first babies. You still have plenty of child hearing years left. This is something you want to make sure you're 110% ready. If you have any doubts about being ready then you're not. Don't rush it you have plenty of time. It's a huge life changing decision. Just don't rush you'll know when the time is right. I wish you the very best of luck!

I'm almost 30 and I'm not ready. If you are not ready don't force it. Don't let anyone pressure you. You have time to wait. You could also say you want to wait until "after Covid" so you can have a normal baby shower and your husband at appointments. That's one thing I want to wait on too. I want my fiancé (husband) to be at my appointments and him and my mom and the hospital.

Definitely don't feel that you have to have a baby because others your age have one or more. The timing is different for everyone. Just how some people get married young others wait until they're older. My sister in law is 36 she just had her first baby and wants another one. Honestly if you're not sure that you want one right now that's you're answer right there. You don't want one now so you shouldn't do it now. You have more than enough time to have children. This is not something that should be forced at all. Don't let anyone pressure you and don't give in to the pressure. The timing must feel right completely with you before you take a huge step to try to get pregnant. Allow yourself time and patience. Good luck to you!

Thank you guys so much! I appreciate all of you guys being so positive, helpful, and kind! I wish our family would be more supportive like you guys are! Everyone keeps telling me that, "Nobody is ever really ready." But, I want to be 110% sure before we have one. I was so worried I was going to get backlash for this, but thank you guys. I appreciate it. I really truly mean it.

I'm not a mother, but,I will say make sure you feel ready when your decide to have a baby. A baby changes everything. You're still young and have plenty of time. It's completely your choice, nobody elses, including not your husbands.

You're welcome! Just make sure you're 110% ready. You can't have the slightest bit of doubt. My husband and I both knew when the time was right for us. We felt it in our souls. You have to feel that too. It's the kind of thing that you have to be in completely harmony about. When you feel 110% ready, trust me you'll know when you're there! You're just not there yet and that's ok. You have plenty of time to have children. Give yourself patience, kindness and love and when the time is right you'll feel it!!

I agree about not measuring yourself by what other people are doing. You and your life are different and you are the person who has to live with your decisions. And you do have time.

I disagree with having to be 110% sure and having no doubt. If you don't have at least a little doubt about any major life decision, you probably haven't thought it through enough. Deciding to go forward with something isn't about just removing doubt. It's about judging that the positives outweigh the negatives by enough that you're willing to have faith that it will work out for the best. There is always an element of uncertainty about anything in life and at a certain point we just have to take the risk. Or choose not to risk anything and forfeit the potential rewards.

I'm not saying you're at the place in your life where you need to make that choice right now, but you will be sometime.

I want to add that I'm not trying to put down the person who said to have no doubt. I just had a different experience. I had zero doubt with our first and leaped right into parenthood. It was quite the learning experience, though I don't regret doing it. I wish I had known more and made some of the choices involved differently, but I wouldn't have my gorgeous, loving 5 year old today if we hadn't jumped in. I had quite a lot of doubt and concerns when we got pregnant the second time. But I knew more and I made a point of finding out everything I could about all the issues involved. Information is definitely power. It all went much more smoothly with him and worked out well.

I found that having some doubt spurred me on in ways that ended up being beneficial. That's why I feel a bit of doubt isn't a bad thing.

I think it depends. If you feel like you're in the right place then go for it. Communication is also really important if it's effecting your marriage. Maybe you could sit down with your husband and explain how you feel. I was 37(why I answered 36 and up) when I had our first. We had been married for 10 years by the time she was born but we weren't in a place to be parents due to our crazy work life. Yikes, I'm really aging myself, I'm now 41 and expecting baby girl #2. You're still young and I don't think it matters when anyone has a baby, as long as they're happy. Again, I think that communication is the number one thing so just talk to your husband.

I don't think you need to have one right now. My sister waited until 35 and had trouble conceiving because her eggs were all ready old. She then had to do IVF. She wished she had started sooner. I had my 1st child at 28. I don't think it is unusual to have doubts.

When you are ready, you will know it. And the desire to have a baby will be very strong.

First at 24 ; been married a couple of years and was a qualified nurse already ..Felt right for us ( Dad was a month sort of 23) Had my last at 43 !

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